Showing posts with label Death. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Death. Show all posts

Wednesday, April 28, 2021

Prudent Prepping: Take Care

The dust has settled and the First 72 Hours have passed. Follow along as I build a long term plan via Prudent Prepping.

It has been an interesting two weeks. As the Chinese proverb/curse says, "May you live in interesting times." 

First Things First
Thank you all for the kind words, thoughts and prayers for me and my family. It means a lot to see so many people who only know me from here and Facebook take the time to do it. Thank you all again.

Self Care with Loved Ones
I was going to write something entirely different two weeks ago, as well as last week and this week too, but Life kept getting in the way. We aren't guaranteed anything in this world except death, since taxes have turned into something optional. With that being the case, spend your time away from your work or other obligations with those who mean the most to you. Do something, anything with them: walk around the block, go to the park, sit on the porch or couch, but spend some time with those that are important to you.

If you haven't noticed, I didn't mention family in the previous paragraph. That was intentional, since for some people (probably many) the term -- and  I'm talking about Blood Relationship Family now -- has some baggage or memories that aren't too uplifting. Those ties will be/are there, and can be ignored if needed to make your life content, but the family I want to talk about is the one we make intentionally, with those we grow to care about and in return are cared for. Those bonds can be stronger than anything you are born into and can offer more support and contentment.

Look to those people. Check up on them. Plan nothing, just do something, anything, to let those around you know you are there.

As for me, I went and flew a kite. With my Family.


After this we bought other kites from Amazon, but every day we have off together hasn't been windy enough to fly them!

Recap And Takeaway
  • It isn't important what you do, just do something with those in your family circle.
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Wednesday, April 14, 2021

David Blackard's Father Has Passed

Hello, Blue Collar Prepping readers. David's father passed away on Sunday. Here is the message from David's sister: 

 Hi family and friends;

Last night our dad passed away peacefully at 91 years. He led a full life and taught us so much. 

Please keep our mom in your thoughts as she adjusts to life without him. They would have been married 70 years later this month. 

We are grateful for our significant others, holding us up, as we navigate this new chapter of our lives. 

Tell your people you love them. 


Naturally, David has the week off to be with his family during his time of loss.  

David and his father and mother

David has the following message for our readers:

We don't have anything planned yet but if people want to send cards at random intervals to my Mom, that's great. Doesn't have to have any message (she can't remember things well) but nice pictures will be cool. 

1300 Juanita Dr.
Attention: Dorothy Blackard
Walnut Creek, CA 94595

 (This is an assisted living facility)  


I'm sure that David will also appreciate messages of support in the comments. 

Thursday, August 27, 2020

When No Help Is Needed

The protests in cities are heating up, and more people are bringing firearms to them. This has meant, and will mean, that people are going to get shot for doing stupid things, at stupid times, in stupid places, while with stupid people. Nothing good comes from being stupid!

I'll defer to the trained professionals on how to actually treat a gunshot wound; my medical training only covers how to help a patient get to that trained professional if possible. We've suggested several types of first aid equipment and training over the years, and I know we've covered triage procedures for when the casualties outweigh the medical staff/training/equipment available. Use the search box in the upper left corner to find the older but still relevant articles, because today I want to cover another, more unpleasant, aspect of emergency first aid: when do you not try to help?

One of the things I've noticed most first aid classes lack is a defined point of “they're gone, you can't help them any more”. Your Red Cross first aid class isn't designed to teach you how to treat injuries; it's meant to teach you how to stabilize a patient for transport to a facility where they can be treated. It takes more advanced training to cover the obvious signs of death and when it is proper not to attempt to help, as first responders are more likely to be the first on scene to find an obviously dead person.

I dug around through my training materials and several online sources, and they all agree on the basics of when to declare a patient deceased and that medical aid in not going to help them. The following is a basic outline, not an exhaustive one.

Obvious signs of death / Don't attempt to revive:
  • Decapitation: if the head is removed from the body, current medical science can't help them.
  • Incineration: firefighters are more likely to see this than an average person, but once the body has gone from “burns present” to “charred” there's nothing you can do.
  • Decomposition: obvious is obvious -- a decomposing body is not going to heal.
  • Bisection: a fancy way of saying “cut in half”.

Presumed dead but has potential for revival:
  • Unresponsive
  • Not breathing
  • Has no pulse
  • Has fixed, dilated (open) pupils

If presumed dead AND has any of the following, do not to try to revive:
  • Rigor Mortis: I covered this in one of my first articles. Shortly after death, the body goes stiff due to the chemical reactions of the onset of decomposition.
  • Lividity of lower extremities: Once the heart stops pumping blood, that blood tends to settle out in the lowest part of the body. Blood pooling under the skin will look like a massive bruise or discoloration, which is known as lividity. Rolling a patient and looking at the underside is all you need to do.
  • Massive trauma with internal organs visible: Unless you're next door to a fully equipped surgical theater, there's nothing you can do that will help.

Helping others and rendering aid are good things in my book, but you need to know when you'd just be wasting time and supplies that might be used to save someone else's life.

Tuesday, August 28, 2018

Guest Post: The Preps Nobody Wants to Do

by Xander Opal

There are preparations for disaster that nobody wants to do because their very nature makes people confront their own mortality and that of those they love, yet not even considering these things makes a rough time even worse.

Nobody wants to face the fact that someday their grandparents, their parents, even they themselves will die. In the midst of dealing with a death in the family, though, it is hard to get all the necessary details correct, or even some of the important things taken care of.

This sober article has been written with the perspective of someone who has had to deal with some of these very issues very recently.

Know Your Work Policies
Different workplaces have different rules regarding allowed time for dealing with a death in the family. Some might not have allotted bereavement time, or the time might not be enough to deal with everything that has to be dealt with. Some jobs require proof, such as a copy of the funeral program, to prevent others from abusing the system.

A good checklist of actions when requesting bereavement leave:
  1. Notify your boss
  2. Notify Human Resources
  3. Arrange the time off with whichever of the above is appropriate for your workplace
  4. Notify coworkers who depend on you and/or fill in for you
  5. Follow up within 24 hours if any of the above did not respond (for example, you left them a voicemail/email and they haven't gotten back to you). If the usual person in any of the positions above has someone filling in for them, make sure both they and the person filling in are both notified.

Know Who to Lean On
Many people are really out of it when a death occurs, breaking part of their world. It can help to know who you can turn to among friends and family to talk things over, who is responsible enough to remind you of the things that need doing, and who is reliable enough to help you do what needs doing.

Know Who to Support
Being helpful can help someone deal with the grief of the situation themselves. Be aware that you aren't the only one grieving; other family and friends are also scrambling to manage in a bad time and might need an ear or a hand. Someone, somewhere, doesn't have time to deal with simple things like food. A sandwich platter or a cheese/crackers/meat platter refrigerates well and will be ready for just when it is needed, such as during a break in the visitation period.

Know You Have Something to Wear
Depending on your lifestyle, you might not regularly wear a serious dress or suit. If not, make sure that you have something appropriate for a funeral that both fits and is clean. For a non-random example, I discovered that the clothes I last wore at a cousin's wedding were missing a button and had a stain; the dry cleaners had them ready (barely) the night before my grandmother's funeral.

Know You Have a Place to Stay
In modern times, people move a good distance away from family to meet the demands of work, desires of a place to live, and other reasons as varied as there are people. This means needing a place to stay, either with relatives, a friend, or at a hotel. Conversely, if you have a guest room, be prepared to be asked to help with out-of-town relatives and work out the best arrangement for all.

Know Everybody Knows the Plan
If "everybody knows something", somebody surely doesn't. It's an embarrassing thing to have a key person in funeral proceedings not know that a time was changed, even if the funeral director is on the ball and quickly finds a substitute. Better someone gets the information twice than not at all.

Know the Departed's Wishes
I've heard it said that "If you hate your family, don't have a will" and a will makes it clear what to do. While you cannot make someone take care of this key piece of planning, I highly recommend asking one's parents or grandparents to have one so things are done the way they'd like it after they are gone. Even if there are no items of monetary value, there are often little things that are precious mementos to one or more family members.

Know the Good Memories
A friend of mine recommended this, and I am making it a tradition: when a family member is deathly ill, or even after they pass suddenly, get a quality bound journal and good pens. Title it something appropriate, and take turns passing it around family and friends to write good memories about the person the journal is for. So long as a person is remembered, they are not truly gone, especially so if the memories are good ones.

Thursday, April 12, 2018

Age: Not Something I Was Fully Prepared For

I've been a prepper for a long time. We used to be called “survivalists”, but that term developed some severely negative image once the news/entertainment media began to lump it in with conspiracy theorists, anarchists, and sovereign citizen activists. “Prepper” is more main-stream and acceptable, and is less likely to conjure up the image of someone who chooses to live outside the bounds of society. I do what I can to be prepared for disasters large and small, and I've gathered my skills and stores over the years. What I wasn't prepared for was the years.

I'm getting old. While David may have a few years seniority over me, I'm rapidly approaching retirement age and there are some things that I didn't fully prepare for. I'm not going to complain about getting old; too many of my friends didn't get the opportunity to grow old for me to whine about it. I bring this up for my younger readers, to tell them that there are some things they  may want to think about and start preparing for.

Health
I'm in better shape physically than most people my age. I got a good roll of the dice for genetics, so I can look forward to a fairly decent old age: Cancer doesn't run in my family, and even for those who smoked it has usually been something else that killed them; heart disease is a crap-shoot on both sides of my family, but I've taken better care of myself than previous generations; diabetes is about the same with both parents developing it late in life, but being aware of that I've taken steps to reduce my risk.

I have realized that I'm starting to age, though.
  • I went to renew my driver's license and failed the eye test for the first time. 40+ years of driving, and now I have to wear my reading glasses to be safe. Time to invest in a few extra pair of glasses.
  • On the topic of eyesight, I've found that I get more use out of optical sights on my firearms now. Iron sights just aren't as useful as they were 20 years ago. I like my laser sights and red-dot scopes, so batteries got bumped up a notch on the list of priorities.
  • I had a root canal fail after 35 years. The dentist dug out the old root and also took out an adjacent tooth that was bad (3.5 hours in the chair, a week on pain killers, two weeks on antibiotics) and once that heals up I'll get fitted for a partial denture. Yeah, the denture cream commercials aren't funny any more, and now I'm going to have to look into denture care/repair.
  • I don't heal as quickly as I used to. What were once minor injuries or illnesses can now side-line me for days or weeks. This requires more attention to preventing injuries and illness as well as larger supplies of whatever I need to treat them. A minor cut that used to heal in three or four days, taking maybe a dozen bandages to keep it clean, now takes a week or more and a lot more bandages.
  • Arthritis is trying to get a grip on some of my joints. Since my wife suffers from fibromyalgia and a few other chronic ailments, I know what I have to stockpile to ease the pain and stiffness. Herbal anti-inflamatories are on the research list.

Money
It's hard to live without money, at least under the present conditions. I'm not a wealthy man; I've worked blue-collar jobs most of my life and have never felt the need to amass great sums of money. Some of that is based on my religion, and some of it comes from living a simple life. I'm not a competitive person, so I don't get involved in the “keeping up with the neighbor” games. Frank got a new car? Good for him, I'm sure he'll enjoy it.

That being said, I have tried to plan for my retirement.
  • I have minimized my debt to the point that I will be debt-free as soon as my mortgage is paid off in about three years.
  • I have modest retirement accounts and small pensions through two former employers. IRAs and 401(k) plans are based on the stock market, so the money is not really ensured, but it's a calculated risk. I'm willing to gamble (which is what the stock market is) a percentage of my pay for the chance to have a source of income when I decide to stop working. Start as early in your working life as you can, because it builds up over time.
  • Social Security may still be in operation by the time I retire. I've paid into that Ponzi scheme since 1977, and I pray that I can at least break even and get back what I put in. I'm not going to rely on it as a primary source of income, though.
  • If at all possible, have more than one source of income. I've been the primary income provider since I got married. I chose to let my wife be a stay-at-home mother to raise our family, and that decision had side-effects. Sometimes you have to do work that you don't want to, just to put food on the table.
  • Being unemployed has not been an option for most of my life, so I'm not sure how I'm going to react to retirement. I've seen people thrive after they stop working, but I've also seen people die within a few years of retirement.

Family
While I'm losing relatives to age, I'm also gaining grandchildren and extended family (tribe). My mother's family has dwindled to my generation and our children, and my father's is getting close to that. 
  • Not many aunts and uncles left, which is a chunk of my life that I'm not looking forward to losing. Funerals are never any fun, and I've been to a lot of them lately, but they're offset by the birthday parties,weddings, and other celebrations of life that come from having family. 
  • Funerals don't normally require presents, but the other gatherings do. Time to take stock of gift-able items. Not many in my family/tribe will pass up gift-wrapped ammunition.
  • I have some responsibility to pass on what I know to future generations. That is one reason I write these articles, but I also have close family that I need to teach very basic things to. I have grandchildren and others that don't understand how much they'll never learn in school, and from what I've seen of recent graduates of public schools, reading and writing (legibly) aren't being taught any more, so I have several boxes of paper and pencils.
  • I have family and tribe scattered across the country. Keeping in touch with them is easy now, thanks to the Internet and cell phones, but if TSHTF, this will likely change. I have a few friends looking into amateur radio for me, I'll try to get an article together this summer with what we find in our local area.

Having a prepper mindset means looking to the future and trying to be ready for whatever the universe throws at you. Just keep in mind that after you've survived the disaster, you still have many more years ahead of you.

Sunday, June 5, 2016

Gun Blog Variety Podcast #93 – Goodbye to Ray Carter

Adam and Sean suck at writing intro sentences.
  • Erin Palette discusses preparing for grief.
  • In her first regular segment, Tiffany Johnson shows us how a win isn't always a win, and sometimes being a jerk isn't the way to make your point.
  • Beth Alcazar reminds us that intent matters. Moms know this about children's behavior. They should know this about guns as well.
  • Ray Carter's death left a hole not just in the gun community, but also in the hearts of many people. Barron tells us just a little bit about the man he was.
  • And by now everyone knows that Katie Couric's biased anti-gun hitpiece has been pulled for deceptive editing. Right before everyone found out what a lying liar she is, she went on the Today Show for a softball interview with her old buddy Matt Lauer. So it's time for another patented Weer'd Audio Fisk™.
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Thursday, April 7, 2016

Death and Burial: An Update

I've had a rough month. With the deaths of my father-in-law, mother, and aunt all occurring within three weeks, I have had to deal with the subjects of death, dying, and burial on a personal level that I haven't experienced before.

I went back and read a few posts that I wrote two years ago when we first kicked off this blog, and decided that they needed an update.

Death and Burial: Body
TL;DR Our bodies are mortal, we will all die one day. What do we do with the mortal remains?

The original article covers methods of dealing with dead bodies, but there is another facet to dying that I need to write about: “Natural causes” deaths have common steps or stages that they progress through. This list is not a schedule; the stages are often jumbled and there is no set sequence.
  • Loss of appetite and thirst. As the body starts to shut down, its energy needs dwindle. The dying person will refuse food and drink because their body isn't calling for it.
  • Fatigue or excessive sleep. With less food (and therefore energy) going into the body, the person may sleep constantly, or at least very often. Sleep may also be sporadic and irregular.
  • Weakness. Again, less energy going in means there is less available for use in moving the body.
  • Confusion or agitation. As the end gets near, the dying person may not recognize or acknowledge people around them. Mumbling and incoherent or nonsensical speech is common, as are fear, panic attacks, and hallucinations.
  • Breathing problems. Labored breathing, interrupted breathing, and phlegm building up in the airways and causing a “rattle” when breathing are all common.
  • Changes in urination. With reduced water intake the kidneys have less to work with, causing the urine output to become dark -- often as dark as tea or coffee. Dropping blood pressure also causes the kidneys to shut down, which will mean less (but more concentrated) urine output.
  • Changes in circulation. As the internal organs shut down, blood flow is concentrated in the brain and torso. Hands and feet may become cold, and near the end of life they will be mottled red/blue/purple or blotchy where they were once pale or gray. This normally appears on the soles of the feet first.

Death and Burial: Mind
TL;DR Our bodies react in specific ways after death.

There's not much I can add to what I originally wrote. When my father-in-law entered hospice care, a team came in and turned off the internal defibrillator built into his pacemaker as part of his DNR (Do Not Resuscitate) advanced directive. Advanced directives are right up there with your Last Will and Testament when it comes to important paperwork: assigning medical decision-making powers and defining what level of advanced life support you want used must be in writing and available if you are unable to communicate.

TL;DR Grief and mourning. We react to the death of others in our own individual ways.

I have seen all forms of grief in the last month. Some people are more accepting of the inevitability of death than others, and their grief is internalized. Denial, anger and depression are common responses, but there is still no set “stages of grief and mourning” that we all have to go through. The “counselors” that demand we all check the boxes on their precious lists deserve to have their pieces of paper shoved where the sun doesn't shine. That's not anger coming from grief; that's anger coming from watching idiots recite a litany that they learned in night school that they have no understanding of.

Supporting each other is vital at these times.
  • If a family member can't go to the funeral, there is no reason to assign blame or derision.
  • Some people don't want to see a loved one after death -- they prefer to remember the deceased as healthy and happy. While I see this as a minor form of denial, I don't have a problem with people trying to avoid extra pain.
  • We all have to deal with death and grief in our own ways. The one exception that I can see is removing someone who is having a psychological melt-down in public. All they are going to do is upset others around them when most of the people there are already upset enough.
Death and Burial: Soul
What happens to the immortal part of us?
I never got around to writing this one because of all of the different versions of the afterlife that are available. This is the subject of a college degree, not a weekly blog post.


Both my mother and my father-in-law where good Christian people, and I am sure they are resting comfortably somewhere, waiting for the rest of us to join them. I wasn't close enough to my aunt to know for sure, but I never heard anything bad about her. I have hope that she is at peace with her God.

I'm glad that my family members are no longer in pain, and have traveled beyond this earthly realm of work, pain, suffering, and death. I am sure that I will meet them again when it is my turn to cross over to a better place, and I look forward to that day, but there is still a hole or two in my heart that will take time to heal.

Thursday, March 20, 2014

Death and Burial- Part 3 (Spirit)


For the new readers, I tend to break personal things down into four categories- Body, Mind, Spirit, and Soul. Things other than personal I categorize by how many people they affect (Team, Tribe, Territory). That's just how I deal with things, I'm not going to demand that you follow my example.

In Part 1 I covered the "Body" side of death and burial; basically, how to dispose of a body in a respectful manner.

In Part 2 I covered some of the "Mind" side - I laid out the information on how to determine if someone is dead and went through the stages a body goes through shortly after death.

Today, in Part 3, I will be going over "Spirit". Spirit is separate from Soul in my view. The difference as I see it is that Spirit contains the mental/emotional health of a person, whereas Soul deals with the undying part of us that makes us human and leaves the body at the time of death.

Part 4 -Soul is a touchy subject that will have to cover a wide variety of faiths, as well as atheism. Look for it in the near future, but not any time real soon - I'm still doing research.

Grief and Mourning

There is a difference between grieving and mourning. Grief is what you feel inside; mourning is how you express those feelings to the rest of the world. They are both part of a journey towards acceptance of the loss and the continuance of your life, albeit without the one who has died. Each journey through grief and mourning is unique and has no road map. There is no "proper" way or path to grieving and mourning, no 10 step process to go through before you're "all better" or "over" your loss.


Grief. Grief is part of being human. It exists because we have the ability to love and we are all mortal. The combination of those two things dictates that we are going to have to deal with the death of those that we love. The depth of the felt grief will vary according to a host of factors:
  • The relationship you had with the one who is gone. Generally the closer and longer the relationship, the stronger the grief will be. This is why the death of even a distant aunt or cousin has more of an impact than the death of a dozen people you've never met on the other side of the world and the death of a true friend can hit harder than that of a family member. The death of a leader can have an extra impact because of their many roles in your life.
  • The circumstances of the loss. If the loss is sudden and unexpected, expect to feel grief more intensely than if it was after a long illness. The death of a young person is usually seen as more of a tragedy because of the unfulfilled potential they represented.
  • Your cultural background. Those of us who live closer to the production of food tend to view death differently than do those who think that meat and eggs magically appear in the grocery store.
  • Your religious views and the religious views of the one who is gone. If you believe in an afterlife and are content that the one who died has fulfilled whatever requirements their religion has for admittance to a better place, their death will be easier to accept as a transition rather than an ending.
  • The support system that is available after the loss. If you have compassionate friends and family around you to help you, the journey will be easier. Being surrounded by selfish, negative people will only make things harder to work through, but that applies to more than just grief.
  • Other stress in your life at the time of loss. Obviously if you are already under stress you will be more likely to be hit hard by a death or find it difficult to deal with.

Mourning.  The outward expression of grief will vary as much if not more than the feelings of grief themselves.
  • Cultural aspects of mourning vary greatly. Despite our inherent bias towards our own culture, we should at least try to accept that other people are going to mourn in other ways. Americans of northern European decent (especially men) tend to be stoic, trying to internalize their grief and not show any signs of "weakness" by outwardly mourning a loss. The Irish may throw a wake to celebrate and remember the life of the one who died. Women are generally allowed to grieve more openly than men.
  • Religious beliefs will also be a factor in mourning. Many religions have routines or ceremonies in place to provide "approved" methods of mourning. These may include specific time periods for different stages or rituals of mourning, clothing to be worn or not worn during mourning, and covering of mirrors in the house of the deceased.
  • Dressing in black for a period is common, but in some parts of the world widows will wear black for the rest of their lives (generally in the Greek Orthodox Christian areas). In some Asian cultures, wearing white as the color of purity is the norm for mourning.
  • Most people in mourning will withdraw from society to some extent. This is normal, but can be taken to the extreme point of cutting all contact with others. 
  • Social acceptance of the relationship you had with the deceased. There are a variety of forms of relationship that society may not approve of but that does not lessen your feeling of loss or your need to mourn. This is changing, slowly, in America with the inclusion of "special friend" as a relationship in obituaries, and "domestic partner" getting legal status in many states.

How to Help a Friend. The crew over at The Art of Manliness covered "how to help a grieving friend" quite well. To recap their article (It's a short read, go to the link for details.):
  1. Don't minimize their loss
  2. Don't try to divert them from their loss
  3. Don't be afraid to talk about the deceased
  4. Don’t be afraid of causing tears
  5. Do let them talk
  6. Do reassure them
  7. Don't isolate them
  8. Do some tangible act of kindness
  9. Don't let them drop out of life
  10. Do get them out of themselves

How to Help Yourself. Here's the hard part. I'm not a self-help guru that's here to tell you how you should grieve or mourn. I may be a Chaplain, but probably not your Chaplain. There is no right way or wrong way to mourn and the grief you'll encounter is very personally yours.

There are some basics, but situations are far too variable for me to say what will help you and what won't.
  • Take care of yourself. Eat, even if you don't feel like it. Get as much sleep as your body needs. Drink plenty of water, especially if you're crying a lot. Exercise is a good way to relieve stress, so hit the gym if you can.
  • Remember the deceased. Talk to others who are mourning the person who died. Share memories of your times together. Keep something of theirs to remind you of their presence in your life.
  • Don't be afraid to cry. Tears are natural and healing. If you're not comfortable having others see you cry, find a place where you can be alone to let them flow.
  • Visit the deceased's final resting place. Talk to them as if they were still alive, it may help you settle some of the turmoil in your mind.
  • Accept help and support from others. Reject condemnation and negativity from anyone who is not sharing your grief. 
  • Offer help and support to others who are grieving.
  • Be aware that healing grief takes time and that it may pop back up after you thought you had it under control.

Thursday, February 13, 2014

Death and Burial - Part 2 (Mind)


Part 1 may be found here

One of the other aspects of death and burial is the “how” behind it all. How can you tell if someone is dead? How can you tell how long someone has been dead? How do you handle a dead body? These and other questions may seem morbid or grotesque, but the answers may be relevant in a post-SHTF world.

Death is usually determined as when the brain stops functioning, or at least when the heart stops pumping blood to the brain - which leads to brain-death rather quickly, within two to six minutes. Determining brain death requires the use (and interpretation) of an electroencephalogram (EEG). I don't think many of us own an EEG and carry it around with us. In the various medical training I've received over the years (mostly advanced first aid and first responder training) they taught a few quick methods of determining whether a person was dead and therefore beyond the need of aid, freeing you to provide aid to those that could still benefit from it.


How can you tell if someone is dead?
Lack of signs of breathing is not a sign of death anymore. In earlier times it was common to check for breath by holding a mirror to a person's mouth and looking for the mirror to fog up. With the advent of CPR, a person who has stopped breathing can sometimes be "brought back". The statistics I've seen put the success rate for CPR in the 10-20% range. In “normal” times, that's only fair odds, but in a SHTF situation with no advanced/enhanced medical aid around it may all you have. CPR training is cheap or free and I strongly recommend that everyone get it.
 
Lack of a pulse is not always a sign of death, especially if it is a radial (taken at the wrist) pulse. Freezing and injuries can stop blood flow to the extremities, so they are not a viable place to check for a pulse. Always check at the throat (carotid pulse) if you're looking for signs of life.

Presence of a heartbeat doesn't always mean life, either. Both my father and father-in-law have pacemakers that will keep their hearts pumping for quite some time after they are brain dead. Until the heart muscle starts to decay or the blood starts to coagulate, that electrical pulse will keep it beating. Think of the high school experiment with frog legs and electricity. 

Decapitation or massive loss of brain tissue is a clear indicator that the person is dead, as is the onset of livor mortis, algor mortis and rigor mortis. 


How can you tell how long someone has been dead?
Livor mortis is the pooling of blood in the part of the body closest to the ground, and begins as soon as the heart stops beating. Gravity will pull the blood to the lowest point, causing the skin on the rest of the body to lose color and the low points to be “stained” a purplish-red by the pooling blood. The blood is “unfixed” or able to move for a few hours after death but then gels or coagulates and will no longer move.

Algor mortis is the cooling of the body after death, also referred to as “assuming room temperature”. Depending on the temperature of the environment, the rate of cooling can vary drastically.

Rigor mortis is the stiffening of the muscles once blood flow ceases. Rigor mortis has stages that it progresses through, and can give you an idea of how long someone has been dead. Be aware that small children and infants may not show signs of rigor mortis due to their smaller muscle mass and less developed skeletons.
  • The first stage begins at the moment of death - all of the muscles relax due to the absence of control by the nervous system. The anal sphincter will relax (allowing the contents of the bowels to seep out) as will the muscles around the urethra (allowing the contents of the bladder to leak out). 
  • The second stage (two to four hours after death) is the stiffening of the muscles in the body. The muscles of the face and neck generally stiffen first, followed by the extremities, and lastly the internal muscles of the body. Since the eyelids and face are the first to stiffen, we have developed the tradition of closing the eyes of the dead as soon as we're sure they're dead. Placing coins on the eyes of the dead is an old ritual that kept the eyelids closed with the side benefit of providing the soul of the deceased with the toll to pay Charon for the ferry ride to the afterlife (he charged two coins - it didn't matter what the coins were). 
  • The third stage (24 - 72 hours after death) is the releasing of the stiffness in the same order as it began as the muscle tissue starts to break down. The stiffness of corpses in modern funerals is caused by the embalming fluids used in preparing the body for burial. 

How do you handle a dead body?
Generally, unless they died of a contagious disease, you'll want to put on a pair of gloves and depending on how advanced the decay process is and a mask to minimize the odors. Friends who work for a coroner's office keep a jar of Vick's VapoRub in their vehicle. They rub a bit along their upper lip or swab it inside their nostrils to counter the smells they're going to encounter when they have to do a pick up. Some of the stories they've told me are disquieting, to put it mildly.

If they did die of a contagious disease, you'll want to take precautions to prevent the spread of that disease. Depending on the disease the precautions can range from rubber gloves and a dust mask (pneumonia or an STD) to full a haz-mat suit and respirator (plague or revived smallpox). If there is any doubt, err on the side of caution. In case of wide-spread outbreak of a highly contagious disease, burning the bodies may be the best way of disposing of them. Taking care of yourself is more important than being respectful of the dead. Decontamination is a complicated subject and may be covered at a later date.

If it is a friend or loved one's body, you may want to bathe the body and dress it for burial as soon as you can. Plugging the body's openings is a common tradition- remember that the bowels and bladder are going to leak. As the body starts to decay pressure will build up in the internal organs that will push everything out, but this takes days unless the temperatures are very warm. Perforations in the abdomen (think bullet holes) will allow the gasses created by the decay process to escape without building up pressure. Placing absorbent pads under the body to catch leakage is a common hospital practice. Wrap them in a sheet or shroud and set them aside while you're preparing the grave or tomb. If it is the body of a stranger or enemy you may not want to go to as much trouble or spend as much time in disposing of them. Rolling them onto a tarp or litter and transporting them to a grave/tomb may be all you'll want or need to do.

When you're done handling the body, wash up as best you can. Soap and water is the bare minimum; a full bath or shower will be better at removing anything that may compromise your own health.

I would suggest leaving some form of ID on any corpse that you bury for future reference, but anything of value on a stranger or enemy should be given to a living person who can get use of it. Family and friends should have made it clear ahead of time how they want their worldly possessions distributed upon their death, and if they haven't then leave that up to the next-of-kin.

Thursday, February 6, 2014

Death and Burial- Part 1 (Body)

This is a hard subject to read about, but one that needs to be covered for the “prepper” community. Every one of us is going to die. This is a fact of life that will not go away just because you don't want to think about it. All of those around us are going to die as well, some before us and others after we are gone. If you're trying to get ready for bad times ahead, then you need to start thinking about how to deal with death as part of your preps.

When I look at my “tribe”, I have people with diabetes, cancer survivors, transplant recipients, pacemakers, and a mess of other issues that I know will shorten the lives of some of them. I know I will be digging graves once the medications start to run out.

There is also the question of what to do with any bodies you may run across. Think about it- you've managed to repel the horde of spiky-haired mutants that attacked your compound, now what are you going to do with all of those dead bodies?

Like all parts of a plan to prepare for bad times, you need to look at what you are preparing for. The needs of a family of four during a week-long snowstorm are going to be much different from those of an extended family (clan or tribe) of twenty trying to get through a civil war that has no end in sight. You will also need to evaluate your surroundings for resources and obstacles. If you live in hard-rock country or in a swamp you're not going to be digging graves, and if you live in the northern extremes you're not going to be digging much at all after the frost has set in. Are there large animals in your area that may be attracted to a corpse? If so you'll want to make sure that they can't get to it. The emotional shock of loosing a loved one will not be lessened by seeing their remains scattered by a bear or coyotes.

If it appears that “normal” life will resume within a week, your main concern will be how to store the deceased until you can get them to a morgue, mortuary, or coroner's office. If the weather is cold, below freezing, a body can be stored in an unheated building or vehicle until the temperature gets above freezing. If the weather is above freezing you have a limited amount of time before the body starts to decompose, temporary burial may be an option. The amount of time varies roughly with the temperature, along with the condition of the corpse and how they died. If it is warm or hot outside and the person died of a bacterial infection, the body can start to putrefy in as little as twelve hours. More on this in Part 2.

If your situation is likely to last more than several days, you're going to need to consider how to dispose of the body. Embalming is probably not going to be an option- it requires some pretty nasty chemicals and dedicated facilities - so we're going to want to look into the funeral practices of more primitive times and places. Without freezing or embalming, corpses need to be dealt with rapidly to prevent the spread of diseases and to keep predators and vermin away from where you live. The options boil down to cremation, burial, or entombment.

I don't consider cannibalism an option - the cultural taboos and medical/nutritional evidence against it are topics for a separate post. Feeding your enemies to the pigs, dogs, or local wildlife is not a good option, as "hard-core" as it may sound. Once most carnivores get a taste for a type of meat, they'll go looking for it. Have you ever tried to break a dog of the habit of killing chickens or eating eggs? Do you really want to train your pigs to eat people? Do you really want wolves, bears, cougars, or alligators hanging around looking for another meal?

Cremation: The practice of cremating the dead is only slightly newer than burial. Cremation means burning the body in a fire large and hot enough to consume all of the organic parts and leave behind only ashes and bones. Some cultures prefer cremation over burial and I've read that it is mandatory if Japan now- ashes take up a lot less space than a conventional grave, and when you live on an island long enough you'll eventually fill it with cemeteries. In a true SHTF scenario, you will want to consider the amount of fuel needed to cremate a body and decide whether or not it could be used to better effect somewhere else. Unless you live next to a natural gas well or have some other source of never-ending fuel, cremation probably won't be a viable option.

Burial: Placing the dead into the ground has been around since the Neanderthals. Common practices include washing the body, covering it in a shroud or placing it in a coffin, orienting the body with the feet to the East, and burying it six feet below the ground. The only one of these that has any “practical” meaning is the depth of burial. At six feet below ground level, the corpse is safe from scavengers and the dirt absorbs the bad-smelling gasses produced by decay. Marking the burial site is common as it allows surviving family a way to show their respect for the deceased as well as showing them where not to dig in the future. Some cultures allow burial of more than one body in a grave, others don't- mass graves are usually a sign that people are dying faster than the survivors can keep up with.

Burial at sea is a variation that is commonly used when someone dies while aboard a ship at sea. The body is normally wrapped in a shroud, weights are added to ensure that the body sinks, and the body is lowered into the sea. This option should only be used in very large bodies of water to prevent the pollution of potential drinking water supplies.

Sky burial: Some cultures have disposed of their dead by placing them on elevated platforms or on mountain tops, where vultures and other carrion-eaters would strip the flesh from the bones or natural desiccation would occur.

Entombment: Placing the body into a natural or constructed solid structure where the process of decay can occur. If you have caves near you, they can be used as catacombs- a place to inter the dead until the process of decay has reduced a body to bones (usually about a year). Mausoleums are another form of entombment, a constructed place to store the dead above ground. If constructed properly a mausoleum will actually speed up the decay process and after a suitable period of time the bones can be collected for storage in an Ossuary and the mausoleum reused. In a pinch, a rock cairn (covering the corpse with a mound of rocks) will suffice to keep large scavengers away from the body to prevent it from being disturbed as it decays. If you don't have rocks nearby, consider using a derelict car or van as a make-shift mausoleum. Drag it far enough away from your living quarters that you won't smell it and place the dead inside.


I know this is a subject that most people don't want to confront, but not having a plan is the definition of “unprepared”. Start working on your plans before they're needed in this, along with all of the other topics we'll be covering, to give yourself a better chance of getting through the rough spots in life.

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